Are you a good communicator? We communicate not only through what we say or write, but also with signals that we give consciously or unconsciously. Our body language communicates with other people and sends additional information to the simple spoken word. For example, someone taking part in an interview can tell their potential employer that they are very comfortable, but their clenched hands and the fidgeting on the chair convey something else. One person can pretend to be interested in what another person is saying, but their constant lack of eye contact betrays the game. Interestingly, the apostle Paul describes that each of us is part of the body of Christ: "But you are the body of Christ and each individual is a member" (1 Corinthians 12,27).
The question arises: which body language do you communicate as a member of the body of Christ? You may say or write many good, positive and encouraging things, but it is the way you behave that says much more. How you shape your life communicates loud and clear what your values and beliefs are. Your attitudes convey the true message that you bring to your fellow human beings.
Are we as an individual, local church or church warm-hearted, friendly and receptive to others? Or are we selfish and crazy and barely notice anyone outside our own small group? Our attitudes speak and communicate with the observing world. Our words of love, acceptance, appreciation and belonging can be stopped in their tracks if our body language denies them.
"For how the body is and still has many members, but all members of the body, although they are many, are one body: so is Christ. Because we are all baptized into one body by one spirit, whether we are Jews or Greeks, slaves or free, and we are all soaked with one spirit. Because the body is not one link, but many » (1 Corinthians 12,12: 14).
We want to admit that our body language should honor all fellow human beings. If we demonstrate the great way of love, they will realize that we really are the disciples of Christ because He loved us and gave himself for us. Jesus said: «I give you a new command: that you love one another. As I loved you, you should love each other. This will tell everyone that you are my disciples: if you give love space to you » (John 13,34: 35). While the love for Christ is passed on to other people in practically all situations, our body language reinforces what we say. That is effective communication.
Words come so easily out of your mouth and are cheap if they are not supported by your actions and attitudes of love. When you communicate, whether through the spoken or written word or the way you live, people can see the love of Jesus in you. A love that forgives, accepts, heals and reaches everyone. May that be your body language for all the conversations you lead.
by Barry Robinson